Thursday, March 17, 2011

The Holy Spirit and Marriage

I am in such shock and awe of how much the Holy Spirit has been giving me strength in the past few weeks.  I knew the power that was available and up till now had only tapped into a small portion of it.  After releasing self-control over to Him completely, life just seems to be a bit easier.  I am eating better, exercising, filling my mind with the word and it makes for a much better day.  I have always been a laid back and happy person but this just gives you that extra boost of energy and confidence that was apparently never fully there. 

I pray that if you are having a hard time letting something go due to self control to truly give it over to God and let the Holy Spirit give you the strength that you can't muster on your own. I promise you that a fully submitted heart will produce good fruit and fruit is good for you!!!

It helps have a loving wife that is there to support me through whatever goes on in my life.  She is my encourager and my best friend.  I wish everyone could find a wife that is as supporting and selfless as she is.  There would be a lot less divorce in this country. I don't think the vast majority of America takes the idea of marriage as serious as we should.  Some people just take the lazy way out and get divorced because they don't want to give their part to the marriage. It's 100% and 100% in my book. We have a lot of desires that turn into expectations when we get married and that can be very dangerous.  Sometimes those desires turned expectations are never voiced so the other person never knows what you are expecting.  Open communication is key.  Men please don't get the mentality that your "THE MAN" and the woman must submit to you. Leave your ego behind and help out with things around the house.  Do laundry every once in a while or sweep.  It's the little things that matter to women.  And don't go around saying "well I did this and this and this".  Kinda ruins the whole effort.  I have heard guys say that once you are married for awhile the woman doesn't want to be intimate anymore or its not that often.  My question to you guys is, what are you doing in the relationship?  Is she giving, giving, giving and your taking taking taking?  That doesn't sound very welcoming to me.  I know I have only been married 11 months but to me its a constant effort that has to be made even when you don't want to.  At times I don't want to come home and cook dinner but that's what I do for my wife.  I cook and she cleans.  That is what we have discussed and it works.  That doesn't mean that I should never pick up a broom or dust or do laundry or sweep.  It's the things that we do out of love not expecting anything back that gives us the best return. There will be ups and downs but with a Christ centered marriage and a willingness to put forth an effort, I am looking forward to the next 65+ years!!

Well this started out as a Holy Spirit Blog and Turned into my take on marriage.  I had to go and change my title.  I hope this made you think and you can take out of it what you would like.

Grace and Peace
Ben

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