News Flash, it's not about you!

First of all, then, I urge that supplications, prayers, intercessions, and thanksgivings be made for all people, for kings and all who are in high positions, that we may lead a peaceful and quiet life, godly and dignified in every way. (1 Timothy 2:1-2 ESV)



We are culture of ME. Our natural bent in life it to make sure all our needs, wants & desires are met. Its very counter intuitive to put someone else's needs before yours.  Even in our prayer life, we tend to pray for things for us, things we want to happen or for our situations to improve.  Sometimes we are so focused on ourselves that we forget why Jesus came. He came to serve, not to be served. He came to be the perfect example of a loving sacrifice. A perfect example of how to die to yourselves daily so others may be lifted up and encouraged. When we put others needs ahead of ours, we gain perspective on how God created us to operate.



A perfect example is marriage. God made marriage for us to draw closer to Him. When we draw closer to Him the natural outpouring is sacrificial love. He designed marriage to be a way to show the traits of God to your spouse and to die to each other daily and with all you have, serve the other unconditionally.  Sounds hard doesn't it? Well it is, on our own. When we allow our earthly desires and wants to be our driving force, we will naturally only focus on ourselves and in turn, degrade the other person without even knowing it. 



When we start with God and allow Him to be the center of our marriage, we will naturally elevate the other's needs and wants above our own.  I know that I don't want to leave my marriage up to my own desires because my desires will always become expectations. We need to make it a habit to always pray for your spouse. To base every decision on how it will effect your spouse and always show unconditional love even when you don't want to. Like the last part of the verse says "that we may lead a peaceful and quiet life, godly and dignified in every way." I know I want my marriage to be peaceful, quiet (without arguments), godly & dignified in every way.



My prayer is that you can always elevate your spouse and show them how much you care and most of all how much God loves and cares for them



Grace and Peace

Ben